Dear Counselor Beezy,
I hope this message finds you well. I am reaching out to you with a heavy heart, seeking your guidance and support to help me navigate a deeply painful and confusing chapter in my life.
My story begins with a romantic relationship that I entered into with a businessman. We met through his friend, who happened to be engaged to my madam, a seamstress I was apprenticing with at the time. We all came from the same district in the Upper West Region of Ghana, which initially created a sense of familiarity and connection.
Our relationship developed swiftly, and within two months, I found myself pregnant. He agreed to take responsibility for our child, and I moved in with him despite his uncompleted three-bedroom apartment. We managed together until I went into labour. We had discussed the idea of formally approaching my family for marriage, and he had agreed that we would have our traditional wedding during our child's naming ceremony.
However, when the time came, the wedding did not materialize. He explained that he didn't have enough funds to cover both events, and I had no choice but to hope for a future ceremony. A year and a half passed, and I became pregnant with our second child, but the situation remained the same. He continued to delay our marriage rites.
Two and a half years later, I became pregnant again, and this time, I insisted on him seeing my family and performing our marriage rites before it became apparent that I was expecting. Despite my pleas, he remained reluctant, and I decided to leave his home and return to my hometown. Throughout my third pregnancy and even during labour, he did not visit or call to check on me and our children. The financial support he provided was insufficient.
Five months after our third child's birth, I received shocking news from a friend. She informed me that my boyfriend was getting married to another woman from our neighbourhood. She even sent me a picture of their wedding invitation card as proof. In disbelief, I reached out to him for an explanation, only to be met with heartless words and insults. He admitted to moving on once I left his home and showed no remorse for his actions.
Counselor Beezy, I am struggling to come to terms with the cruelty and betrayal I have experienced over the years. The pain and confusion are overwhelming, and I find it difficult to move forward. I turn to you for guidance and support as I embark on a journey of healing and self-discovery.
Your wisdom and advice mean a lot to me during this challenging time. Thank you for taking the time to read my message and consider my situation.
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