HOW TO KNOW YOU ARE IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP.

How to know that you are in a toxic relationship

Introduction

If you're in a relationship with someone abusive, it can be difficult to know when to end things. You may feel that you've tried everything and nothing has worked, or you might feel as though leaving would be admitting defeat—this is not the case! If you are in an unhealthy relationship, there are ways for both people involved to recognize when it needs to end. Here are 10 signs that your partner may be abusive. 

Are You Walking on Eggshells?

When you are in a toxic relationship, it's normal to feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner. You might avoid saying things that could upset them or make them angry, and this can become a way of life for some people. You may also worry that if you do say something they don't like, they will leave the relationship altogether. So even though it hurts to stay quiet so often, it's easier than risking everything by speaking up honestly about how unhappy and hurtful things are getting for both of us.

Are You Always Afraid of the Other Person's Moods?

If you are always afraid of the other person's moods, it is a sign of an unhealthy relationship. You should not be afraid to express your opinion or ask questions, disagree with your partner, and make decisions on your own.

Is Your Confidence Eroding?

• You feel like you don’t have any self-worth.

• You feel like everything is your fault, and that no one else should have to suffer because of your mistakes.

• You can’t see the good in people and situations, only the bad (or at least what they could be if things were different).

Is Your Self-Worth Declining?

If your self-worth declines, it may be an indication that you're in a toxic relationship. In this instance, the person who puts you down will be someone who has their own issues and isn't able to see past them. It could also be a family member or friend who has no problem shaming others but continues to do so themselves.

If this happens frequently in your life and there are no other explanations for why this is happening (such as alcohol abuse), then it's time to get out of whatever lifestyle is causing these feelings of degradation by yourself!

Are You Being Manipulated

A manipulation is a form of emotional abuse. It's the act of using guilt, blame, and other tactics to get your way. Manipulative people can be charming and seductive, but they also know how to use threats or intimidation to get what they want.

Is Your Partner a Constant Critic?

Criticism is a way to communicate and it can be very healthy. However, criticism can also be used as a tool by people who are insecure or have low self-esteem. If you find yourself in a relationship with someone who constantly criticizes you and makes you feel bad about yourself, then this may be an indicator that he or she has something else going on inside them than just being concerned about your feelings. In this case, it's important to try to understand why they do this so that you can figure out what kind of help would help best.

Is Emotional Abuse Present in Your Relationship?

Emotional abuse is a form of abuse in which the perpetrator attempts to control the victim through psychological means. The abuser may engage in verbal and emotional abuse, as well as physical threats. In some cases, this type of relationship can lead to physical violence.

The abuser may use any number of tactics to try and keep you under their thumb:

• Coercing you into doing things you don't want or need to do (e.g., asking you for money when they don't contribute anything meaningful to your life)

• Keeping tabs on where you go and what time it is so that they know where you are at all times (even if this involves tracking your phone spying on you)

• Trying to isolate/push away other friends or family members who might offer support during difficult times

Are You Put Down or Humiliated by Your Partner?

Do you feel like your partner puts you down, humiliates, or makes fun of you? If so, it’s time to move on. No one should be treated this way! In a healthy relationship where both partners respect each other, there isn't necessarily a need for someone to put their partner down in front of others. However, if they do this consistently and negatively affects their sense of self-worth then it might be time for them to rethink their behavior as well as possibly seek professional help from an expert who can guide them on how best to deal with these issues in the future on (or even now).

Does Your Partner Hold Grudges and Bring Up the Past All the Time?

If your partner frequently brings up the past, it's a sign that he or she is insecure. They're trying to control you and make you feel guilty for something that happened in the past. This can also be a way for them to manipulate you into staying with them by making you feel like your leaving would result in a loss of affection or trust.

A toxic relationship will keep bringing up old arguments over and over again until one person gives up or becomes so miserable that they leave the relationship altogether.

Do You Feel Unsafe, See Signs of Violence, or Get Threatened by Your Partner's Actions?

• If you feel unsafe, threatened by your partner's actions, or get a bad feeling when they are around, leave the relationship immediately. Don't ignore these signs—they could lead to physical violence in the future.

• If you're experiencing any of the above feelings and want help getting out of this toxic relationship, contact a local domestic violence agency counselor or call 911 for help if there's an immediate threat to life or limb. You do not have to be legally married for either party for one person (you) not to be able to leave their home without fear of retaliation from their spouse/partner because they've said something wrong about them during an argument; however, it may vary depending on state laws regarding marital privilege.

Here are 10 ways to tell if you're in an unhealthy relationship

A healthy relationship is about two people who are committed to each other and want the best for one another. A toxic relationship is one in which one person takes care of the other, often at their own expense.

Here are 10 signs that you may be in a toxic relationship:

• Your partner does most of the talking

• Your partner is needy or clingy

• Your partner expects you to do things for them without asking first (like picking up their dry cleaning)

• You don't feel comfortable voicing your opinion unless it's something they agree with 100% (e.g., "I think we should go out tonight," "What do you think?")

Conclusion

While it is fine to have healthy relationships some red flags can. If you're feeling threatened or unsafe in your relationship, you should consider looking for ways out of it. You deserve a partner who respects and supports you as an individual and not someone who takes advantage of your vulnerabilities or tries to define them for their own gain. If there are any signs of emotional abuse in your situation, seek help from a professional before things get worse. 

Counselor Beezy🦋