He wont help me raise the child he fathers

Hi Counselor Beezy,

I am reaching out to you in a time of great uncertainty and confusion, seeking your advice and guidance on a challenging situation that has been weighing heavily on my heart.

I am a 24-year-old rotational nurse, trying to navigate life's challenges and responsibilities. I found myself in a romantic relationship with a man in his late 30s while I was still a nursing student. He used to assist me financially during my years at the nursing school, a period when my parents were facing financial struggles. Our bond grew stronger due to our shared hometown and the familiarity of living away from home.

As our relationship deepened, I discovered that he was a married man with three children, a fact he initially concealed by claiming to be separated from his wife. Despite my scepticism, I chose to believe him as my feelings for him were strong. However, after receiving a warning call from his wife, I confronted him and realized the truth. This revelation led to our breakup, but a few months later, I learned that I was pregnant with his child.

After a challenging decision-making process, he eventually agreed to let me keep the baby. However, his involvement since then has been minimal. He provided a modest monthly sum of 200 cedis during the first few months, but his support has dwindled to nothing over time. My attempts to communicate with him have been met with excuses and unavailability.

Now, a year and six months later, our child needs to begin preschool, and I turned to him for financial assistance, only to face resistance. My parents, who initially supported me in raising the child, are no longer in a position to help due to their commitments, including my younger brother's university education.

I am currently a nurse on rotation in my hometown after completing my studies. The challenge I face now is how to make this man take responsibility for his child. His lack of involvement and dismissive attitude towards our child's future have left me feeling frustrated and helpless. The thought of my child growing up without his father's acknowledgement is deeply troubling.

Counselor Beezy, I am at a loss on how to navigate this situation. I need your guidance on how to approach this man and help him understand the importance of his role as a father. I am running out of options and feeling overwhelmed by the weight of this responsibility.

Your insights would mean a lot to me in this trying time. Thank you for taking the time to read my message and consider my situation.

Thank You.

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