His girlfriend called me a sugar mummy.

Dear Counselor Beezy,

I hope this message finds you well. I am reaching out to you in a time of great emotional turmoil, seeking your guidance and insights on a deeply distressing situation I find myself in. Your wisdom and advice have been a source of comfort to many, and I am hopeful that you can offer me some clarity as well.

Allow me to share my story. I am a 33-year-old woman who has been through life's ups and downs. I have a child from a previous relationship, and in my journey, I met a 24-year-old young man who recently graduated from the University of Ghana. We live as neighbours, and I extended a helping hand to him when he was unemployed and struggling financially. We developed a close bond, fueled by his relationship with my son and his willingness to assist with my son's homework.

Over time, our connection deepened, and we found ourselves in a romantic relationship. This lasted for two years, during which I supported him in various ways, from providing food to contributing to his basic needs, even helping with his rent and utilities when he finally secured a job. However, things took a drastic turn after he received his first salary. His behaviour towards me changed dramatically – he became distant, stopped checking up on me, and would often avoid my calls.

In an attempt to address this shift, I confronted him, only to be met with a series of excuses. He was no longer as receptive to my visits, and during one of his rare trips to Kumasi, I discovered messages on his WhatsApp that strongly suggested he was having an affair with another woman. When I confronted him about it, he vehemently denied it, attributing it to mere amusement.

One day, I surprised him with a visit and was met with a painful truth: I found him in an intimate situation with the same woman from the messages. I confronted her, urging her to leave him alone, but her response shocked me further. She accused me of being a sugar mummy and advised me to find someone my own age. Throughout this confrontation, he remained passive and fixated on his phone.

As you can imagine, this experience has left me shattered, confused, and deeply hurt. What adds to the pain is that he showed no concern for my well-being as I left that night. His silence has persisted since then, leaving me questioning everything I thought I knew about our relationship.

Counselor Beezy, I am lost and in need of your guidance. How do I navigate the aftermath of this heartbreak? How do I find the strength to heal and move forward? I value your insights and look forward to any advice you can provide as I strive to regain my sense of self and clarity in this difficult time.

Thank you for taking the time to read my email and considering my situation.

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