He wants to control every aspect of my life.

Hey Counselor Beezy,

I'm writing to seek your guidance and advice on a challenging situation I'm facing in my current relationship.

About six months ago, I met a man at Kumasi Mall, and we began dating shortly after. Initially, everything seemed fine, and we both felt mature enough to handle a relationship. However, certain behaviors have emerged that are causing me concern.

Firstly, he exhibits authoritative tendencies. When he wants something, he insists on it, and it feels like there's no room for compromise. Just a month into our relationship, he started telling me whom I should call and even wanted to pick up my friends for me.

Recently, he visited me and came across a chat I had with another guy. This other person had been expressing romantic interest in me even before I met my current boyfriend, and while we occasionally kept in touch, our conversations were not serious. The most recent message from this person simply expressed missing me and wanting to see me again.

When my boyfriend saw this chat, he became furious, slapped me, and warned me never to communicate with this other person again.

Now, my boyfriend is suggesting that I meet his parents, which is a significant step in our relationship. However, I am genuinely concerned that his authoritative behavior may escalate into emotional or physical abuse, especially considering the incident with the chat.

I've been making excuses to delay meeting his parents, but I'm growing increasingly confused about how to proceed. His tendency to insult me and use derogatory language during conflicts is deeply troubling.

Counselor, before I make any commitments in this relationship, I would greatly appreciate your advice on how to handle this situation and what steps I should take to ensure my well-being and safety.

Thank you

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