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Her parents want to use me as bait for their material interest.

Hello Counselor, 

 I am reaching out to you today with a story that seems to defy the ordinary and has left me in a state of bewilderment. Your insight and guidance are urgently needed to navigate this complex and, quite frankly, bewildering situation in my current relationship.

Imagine, if you will, a relationship that has spanned three years—a bond filled with love, shared dreams, and aspirations. In this love story, our families know each other, and our union seems inevitable. The topic of marriage had been a frequent guest in our conversations, and both of us were eager to begin this new chapter of our lives together.

Recently, I gathered every ounce of courage and embarked on a journey to meet her parents, determined to ask for their blessing and formally propose. My heart was brimming with anticipation, picturing a scene of joyous celebration as they welcomed me into their family. However, the events that unfolded were far from anything I could have imagined.

As I entered her family's home, an eerie silence enveloped the room, and the atmosphere felt heavy with an unspoken tension. The warm embraces I had envisioned were conspicuously absent. Instead, what awaited me was a meticulously handwritten list of demands and requirements—demands that would need to be fulfilled before they would even consider approving our marriage.

Now, you might wonder, what could be so extraordinary about this list of demands? Well, it was unlike anything I had ever encountered. The demands ranged from the conventional—financial contributions and gifts—to the utterly perplexing, including requests for unusual items and services that seemed to defy reason. The demands appeared endless, and I couldn't help but question the purpose behind such an exhaustive list.

Intriguingly, when I expressed my concerns to my girlfriend in the hopes that she could shed light on the situation, she confided in me with a revelation that left me utterly confounded. It turned out that her family's motivations were not rooted in tradition or necessity but rather in the presence of another suitor—another man who had set his sights on her heart.

This man, by all accounts, is financially endowed and capable of fulfilling their every wish and desire. In their eyes, he appears to be the answer to their material aspirations. However, the twist in this perplexing tale lies in the fact that my girlfriend, the woman at the center of this peculiar situation, harbors no affection or desire for this affluent suitor. She has made it abundantly clear that her heart belongs to me and that she wishes to build a life with me.

And so, I find myself at an impasse, caught between a web of inexplicable demands and the undying affection of the woman I love. The enigmatic question that haunts my thoughts is why her family would forsake her happiness for material gain. Their unwavering stance leaves me puzzled and troubled, seeking clarity and a path forward in this intricate and baffling situation.

Counselor Beezy, your guidance is sought not only to decipher this perplexing conundrum but also to illuminate a path toward resolving it. I eagerly await your insights and counsel on how to navigate this extraordinary and confounding relationship challenge.

Thank you.  

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