I am not a happy Mrs.

Hi Counselor,

I am reaching out to you with a deeply personal and challenging situation that I am currently facing in my marriage. Your guidance and expertise would be invaluable to me at this time.

I have been married to a man for two years, but I must admit that I have not been able to develop any form of love or deep affection for him. The decision to marry him was primarily influenced by external factors. At the time, my previous relationship had no immediate prospects of leading to marriage, and I felt tremendous pressure to settle down. My friends were all married, and societal expectations, as well as family pressures, were mounting.

Despite sharing a strong bond with my ex-boyfriend, we both recognized that marriage was not on the horizon for us, and we mutually agreed to part ways. Feeling the weight of my age, as I was in my mid-30s, I reluctantly considered the proposal of a man who had been pursuing me for about three years. He was more than willing to meet my family and pay my bride price, which my ex-boyfriend was hesitant to do.

I agreed to the marriage proposal, and we are now husband and wife. We even have a beautiful baby girl together. However, no matter how hard I try, I find myself unable to develop genuine feelings of love for him. I have remained faithful to him, but my deepest fear is that I may never be able to fully commit to this relationship. I worry about living with a man for whom I have no romantic affection.

Divorce is not an option I wish to consider, even though I have exhausted every effort to nurture love within me. My husband genuinely cherishes and loves me, and I am aware that I should reciprocate those feelings, but it just isn't happening to me.

Counselor Beezy, I am writing to seek your guidance on how I can work towards developing some affection for my husband and improving our relationship. I value your insights and any advice you can provide to help me navigate this challenging situation.

Thank you

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