I'm losing the love of my life to my childhood friend.

Hi Counselor,

I trust this message reaches you in good health. I am contacting you because I currently face a profoundly difficult and emotionally turbulent situation, and I am in search of your counsel and insight.

My story begins back in 2015 when I entered the University of Energy in Sunyani. There, I met a guy who became my coursemate and, from the very first day, captured my heart. I fell in love with him, but I was hesitant to express my feelings openly, so I opted to befriend him in the hope that our friendship would naturally evolve into a romantic relationship. We became inseparable, studying together, sharing meals, and even attending parties side by side. We were so close that it seemed like we were already in a relationship, even though he never saw me as more than a friend.

In my deep affection for him, I went to great lengths to keep other potential suitors at bay, believing that someday he would recognize my feelings. I confided in one of my closest friends about my love for him, and she advised me not to confess my love first, fearing that he might take advantage of my vulnerability.

Despite his constant compliments about my beauty and how lucky any man would be to have me, he never made any romantic moves. As we neared our final year in university, I invited him to my sister's wedding and introduced him to one of my childhood friends who attended KNUST. They began talking, and soon, I discovered that he had fallen in love with my friend. It was heartbreaking, but I concealed my feelings and supported their budding relationship.

Over time, my friendship with him began to deteriorate as my friend replaced me in his life. They invited me to events, but I often declined to avoid the pain of seeing them together. I couldn't do anything to jeopardize their relationship, even though I secretly hoped it would end. Their bond only seemed to grow stronger.

Recently, they sent me an invitation to their wedding, and I am overwhelmed with mixed emotions. I still love him deeply, and every time I see him, my feelings intensify.

Counselor, I am struggling to cope with this situation, and I don't know how to handle their wedding invitation. I need your guidance on how to navigate my feelings and the upcoming wedding. Uh

Thank you for taking the time to read my message and for any advice you can provide.

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