I'm torn between two lovely guys.

Hello Counselor,

I find myself in a deeply troubling and confusing situation in my romantic life, and I am in desperate need of your guidance and advice.

For the past three years, I have been in what I can only describe as one of the most successful and cherished relationships. My boyfriend and I share a beautiful bond that has garnered envy from those around us. He is an exceptionally honest and faithful partner who treats me like a queen. Both of our families have met, and we are actively preparing for marriage.

However, I have made a grave mistake that threatens to jeopardize this wonderful relationship. A co-worker of my best friend expressed interest in me, and my friend, after persistent requests from this individual, shared my contact details with him. Initially, I declined the offer but eventually gave in to my friend's persuasion, thinking there was no harm in providing my number since I could handle the situation responsibly.

To my surprise, the gentleman and I began communicating, building a friendly rapport. He started showering me with gifts and money, going out of his way to make me feel special. When I informed him that I had a boyfriend, he didn't seem fazed and continued to be a perfect gentleman. He never made any inappropriate advances, instead, he was respectful and considerate.

Over time, I found myself growing closer to him emotionally, even more so than with my boyfriend. I've fallen for him deeply, to the point where it's causing a rift in my relationship with my boyfriend, who is rightfully growing concerned about our distancing.

I am torn between the love and devotion my boyfriend has shown me and the unexpected emotions I have developed for this new person in my life. I don't want to hurt my boyfriend, but my heart seems to have been drawn to this other man. I am in a state of confusion, and I don't know how to proceed or how to save myself from this emotional turmoil.

Counselor, I am earnestly seeking your advice on what steps I should take to navigate this complex and distressing situation. Your wisdom and guidance would be invaluable to me during this challenging time.

Thank you for taking the time to read my message, and I look forward to your insights.

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