Masturbating has been my biggest challenge

Hi Counselor,

I am writing to seek your guidance and assistance with a personal issue that has been affecting my life for the past five years.

I have been struggling with a compulsive habit of masturbation. This habit has taken a significant toll on my life, as I find myself masturbating at least once a day, sometimes even more frequently. Despite numerous attempts to quit, I have been unsuccessful in staying away from it for an extended period. Even after engaging in sexual activities with my girlfriend, I still feel the urge to masturbate, which has strained our relationship.

This habit began when I started watching pornographic movies and reading erotic magazines. Although I have since stopped consuming such materials, I continue to have vivid sexual fantasies about beautiful women, even those who are not involved in explicit content. These fantasies lead me to masturbate, and I find myself unable to control the urge.

I have sought help from various sources, including pastors, spiritual leaders, and seers, but my efforts have not yielded lasting results. The most extended period I have managed to stay away from masturbation is four days.

Counselor Beezy, I am desperate to overcome this addiction and regain control over my life. It has affected my relationship, my emotional well-being, and my self-esteem. I feel lost and trapped by this compulsive behavior.

I would greatly appreciate your advice and guidance on how to address this issue effectively. If you could provide me with strategies or techniques to break this habit and regain a healthy perspective on my sexuality, it would mean the world to me.

Thank you

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