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Dear Counselor Beezy,

I hope this letter finds you well. I am in desperate need of guidance and support regarding a deeply troubling situation in my marriage. Your expertise and counsel are greatly valued, and I trust that you can provide me with some clarity and advice.

I have been married for approximately one and a half years to a man with whom I've encountered significant challenges. When we initially dated for six months before our marriage, there were no signs of the issues that have since emerged. However, shortly after our marriage, my husband's insatiable desire for frequent sexual encounters became a serious concern.

He insists on having sex with me daily, sometimes multiple times a day, except during my menstruation. I don't share his level of enthusiasm for frequent intimacy, but I have been trying to accommodate his desires to make him happy. However, this situation is taking a toll on me physically and emotionally.

Our honeymoon experience was particularly exhausting, with multiple rounds of sex on our first night and a demand for more immediately after breakfast the following day. When I expressed my exhaustion, he became angry and left the house for the entire night, not answering my calls. This pattern has continued, with him leaving the house when I deny him sex and returning the next morning.

To make matters more complicated, this relentless pursuit of sex even extended to a few weeks after I gave birth to our son. It eventually resulted in a pregnancy, which we had to terminate because our child was only six months old. Since then, I have undergone six abortions due to his persistent demands for sex.

Considering my demanding work schedule, motherhood, and marital responsibilities, I decided to hire a 16-year-old girl from my hometown to assist with household chores. Little did I know that this decision would lead to further complications. As per the established pattern, when I refused sex one night, my husband went out and returned early the next morning, which became a new routine.

One evening, I experienced severe stomach pain after two rounds of sex and had to seek medical attention. While I was away at the hospital, I discovered my husband in a compromising situation with our house help. I came to meet them having sex on my arrival home after I was discharged from the Hospital. Even when he realized my presence, he continued his actions, which deeply shocked me.

The house help later revealed that my husband had been engaging in a sexual relationship with her since she arrived, and she had already undergone three abortions due to this.

In response, I sent the house help back to her village, but my husband's behaviour worsened. He stopped speaking to me, refused to eat my food, and ceased any physical intimacy. He continued to go out and return the following morning without explanation.

I reached out to his godfather for assistance, but even after their intervention, my husband remained distant and unresponsive. This situation has persisted for three months, leaving me emotionally drained and uncertain about the future of our marriage.

Counselor, I am at a crossroads and contemplating the possibility of ending this marriage, but I am hesitant to make such a significant decision without seeking professional advice. I implore you to offer your insights, guidance, and recommendations on how to address this complex and distressing situation. Your wisdom and expertise would be invaluable to me as I navigate this challenging time in my life.

Thank you for your attention and consideration.


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