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My husband won't talk to anyone.

Counselor,

I am married to a man whom I initially thought was reserved but has turned out to be exceptionally quiet and uncommunicative. Our interactions feel more like interviews, consisting mainly of questions and answers. My husband rarely initiates conversations, and when he does speak, it is usually in response to a question or when he needs something.

Our communication has become incredibly dull, to the point where we can be together for hours without any meaningful exchange. Despite my efforts to engage him in conversation, he typically responds with a smile and only provides information when prompted by a question. This limited communication has made it challenging for me to understand him and connect with him on a deeper level.

We have been married for six months, and I feel like I hardly know anything about my husband's interests or passions. When he returns from work, he often sits idle on the couch, showing no interest in activities such as watching TV or engaging in any sports. Occasionally, he reads a book, but beyond that, he seems disinterested in most things.

I reached out to his mother to inquire if there might be a reason for his behavior, and she confirmed that he has been this way since childhood. As a child, he would isolate himself in his room for days without any interaction with others.

Counselor, I am at a loss as to how to navigate this situation. I worry about the long-term prospects of living in a home with such limited communication and understanding. I seek your guidance on how to address this issue and potentially foster a more open and fulfilling relationship with my husband.

Thank you for your time and assistance.


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