she demands that I return everything she has ever given me

Dear Counselor,

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year and a half, and I have deep feelings for her. Besides the love I have for her, she is financially stable and has supported me in various ways, especially since I have been job hunting after completing my first degree in DBA. However, there is an aspect of her behavior that has been causing me significant distress.

Whenever we have a misunderstanding or argument, she demands that I return everything she has ever given me, including gifts and money she willingly provided. This pattern of behavior is deeply confusing and frustrating to me. It feels as if she uses her generosity against me when we have disagreements, and this drives a wedge between us.

I have tried to address this issue with her, and I even decided not to accept any further gifts from her to avoid this situation. However, even the slightest provocation leads to her demanding the return of everything she has given me. This behavior leaves me questioning whether she truly loves me, as I can't understand why someone who cares about me would act this way.

I find myself torn between my love for her and the emotional turmoil caused by this aspect of our relationship. I am contemplating ending the relationship because of this behavior, but I am deeply conflicted because of the love I still have for her.

Counselor, I need your advice on how to navigate this situation and decide whether to continue this relationship or move on. Your guidance would mean a lot to me during this challenging time.

Thank you

Comments

Anonymous said…

Too bad, Sir

6 September 2023 at 11:14

Anonymous said…

Sit and talk about it with her

6 September 2023 at 20:33

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