Should I curse or Juju her?

Hi Counselor,

My story began when I was posted as a fresh teacher in a village in the Bono East District. I met a brilliant but needy student who, due to financial constraints, had struggled with consistency in her education. At the age of 16, she approached me as her class teacher one day, expressing her intention to leave school because her parents couldn't afford the BECE registration fee. I couldn't bear to see such a young and eager learner give up her education, so I decided to pay for her registration, enabling her to graduate from basic school with an exceptional aggregate of 8.

As she continued her education, I supported her financially through high school, and our bond grew stronger, eventually leading to a romantic relationship. Her parents endorsed our relationship because they recognized the pivotal role I played in her educational success.

Fast forward to her admission to the University of Energy, I continued to provide financial support for her tuition and living expenses. However, during her fourth year, our communication began to change dramatically. She claimed to be overwhelmed with assignments, study groups, and project work, leaving little time for us to connect.

The shocking revelation came when I stumbled upon a chat on her phone with another man. In this conversation, they discussed how she was pretending to love me until she graduated, as they believed I was too old for her. This revelation left me heartbroken and confused. While I was hurt and disappointed, I couldn't bring myself to confront her about the chat.

On her graduation day, I had planned to propose marriage to her in front of her family. However, when the moment came, she declined, stating that she needed more time to mentally prepare for marriage. Her parents were equally surprised and disappointed by her response, as they were aware of the sacrifices I had made for her.

A month after graduation, I visited her family to discuss the marriage proposal, but she rejected me, stating that I was too old for her. Her parents' reactions seemed strangely unsurprised, almost as if they had anticipated her answer.

Since that day, she has refused to answer my calls or meet with me. I feel lost and don't know how to proceed. Some friends and family have advised me to seek revenge, while others have suggested more extreme actions. However, I am hesitant to resort to negativity.

Counselor, I am reaching out to you for guidance on how to manage this situation, heal, and move forward. I want to make wise decisions and avoid actions that I might regret later in life.

Thank you for taking the time to read my message and for any advice you can provide.

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